NY5ub

BDSM Player in Lynchburg

Soft Skills are just as important in BDSM as they are in a job / occupation. Don't got 'em? We probably won't get along.

**Photo Gallery Timeline**
I'm in all the photos.
Beard? It was taken 2016 or later.
Clean shaven? It was taken prior to 2016.
More goon / loser photos on insta at LoserForBrainwashing.


**Executive Summary:**
BDSM / kink / fetish player & enthusiast living Virginia. I live with my partner, who shares many of the same interests. We are in an open relationship and play both together and separately. Professionally, I’m a pragmatic white collar guy in a blue collar industry.

**BDSM & Kink Preferences:**
I have a very wide range of kink experience and interests; feel free to inquire. Even if I’m not specifically interested in a kink, I’m open to discussing it. I find what turns us on as individuals to be fascinating and do not kink-shame...unless your kink is humiliation of course ;-)

As a sub (natural): I am initially cerebral, yet can become engulfed by intense submission in a scene quickly, with the right person. I prefer to play with / serve Doms who can read a submissive well (and get into their head). Boy, slave, pup, and pig are all roles I can identify with and enjoy.

As a Dom (learned): I am slow and methodical. I feed off the energy and enthusiasm of a sub and their kinks. Learning a sub's physical and psychological turn-ons and using them to enhance a scene is highly enjoyable.

My partner and I enjoy hosting at our home and have a large selection of fetish gear. We've had a lot of fun with local, traveling, and international enthusiasts. Hit me up if you are interested in playing. If you know you're going to be in town and want to play, I'm open to arranging a meet up.

**Safety & Responsibility:**
I will only meet and play with responsible BDSM enthusiasts. The line between fantasy and reality can be quite thin & blurry. It’s fun cross that line from time to time. However, I do not tolerate unsafe irresponsible play.

Please note that responsible does not necessarily mean experienced. I enjoy working with those new to BDSM and helping them discover / develop their kinks in a safe and sane environment.

Limits revolve around being safe and minimal heavy pain, but are few.

I've selected "Needs Discussion" in the "Safe Sex" category. That means we need to discuss beforehand how we're going to be safe and what we consider to be acceptable activities. PREP may protect you from HIV, but it’s not a fix-all for other STD’s.

First meetings are always in public, unless you come with a recommendation from someone I know and trust. I've had a friend stabbed to death during a hookup. I've been in bondage when the Dom started having a heart attack (we both survived). My ego is well balanced, but I can become a stubborn asshole when I observe blatant recklessness, irresponsibility, or discrimination.

**Non-Kink:**
Snowboarding and mountain biking are my two favorite outdoor activities. As of June 2024 I’ve consecutively snowboarded 92 months…a run I plan on continuing for as long as possible. Though none of them well, I can play guitar, bass, drums, and keys.


**Community / Organizational Membership:**
Member Delta Brotherhood International; Delta 2016 - 2023. Delta 2024

We’re all wired differently.
A physical connection is fun.
A mental connection is unbeatable.

**Random Points of Amusement**
“HeY bUdDy, i DoN’t ChAt OnLiNe!” - Then what the fuck you doing on a damn online chat app?

I’ve been on Recon nearly my entire adult life (i.e. since before it was “Recon”). If I’m overly cautious talking to you, I’m likely thinking you’re a scammer. It’s not on me to prove you’re genuine. That’s on you.

I used to get annoyed by 20 year old photos on profiles. Now that I'm one of those guys that has photos from 20 years ago on my profile, I get it.