NY5ub

BDSM Player in Lynchburg

*JANUARY 2025 UPDATE*

THE GREAT GEAR REORGANIZATION OF 2025 HAS BEGUN!

I bought a house late last year. Finally to the point of hosting, though still settling into the new place. Keep an eye out in the "GEAR" gallery for progress on play space and equipment.


*PHOTO GALLERY TIMELINE*
Beard? It was taken 2016 or later. Clean shaven? It was taken prior to 2016.


*EXECUTIVE SUMMARY*
BDSM / kink / fetish player & enthusiast living Virginia. I live with my partner who shares many of the same interests. We are in an open relationship and play both together and separately. Professionally, I’m a pragmatic white collar guy in a blue collar industry.

My partner and I enjoy hosting at our home and have a large selection of gear.

Soft Skills are just as important in BDSM as they are in a job. Don't got 'em? We probably won't get along.


*KINK & FETISH INTERESTS*
I have a very wide range of kink experience and interests; feel free to inquire. Even if I’m not specifically interested in a kink, I’m open to discussing it. I'm naturally submissive, but have learned to dominate.

Armpits
Bets
Bondage
Boots / Book Licking
Brainwashing
Bullying
Chains
Chastity
CNC (not rape)
Country Boys
Coercion
Control
Cum Control
Degradation
Denial
Deviance
Domestic Service
Dom/sub
Drone
Edging
Encasement
Farms / Ranches / Rural
Feet
Flogging / Whipping
Gags / Muzzles / GOM / HOM
Gear Stays On
Gimp
Goon
Hierarchy
Hoods / Masks
Humiliation
Hypnosis
Hazing
Jail / Prison
Leather
LEO's
Manhandling
Man Smells
Manure
Milking
Mind Control
Muck
Musk
Objectification
Oral
Power Exchange / Imbalance
Prey / Victim
PVC
Rainwear
Raingear
Rednecks
Restraints
Rubber
Sensory Deprivation
Side
Socks
Spanking
Sports Gear
Storage
Sweat
Teasing
Uniforms
Waders
Wagers
Wellies
Workgear / Work Wear
Wearing Others Well-Worn Gear
WS


*SAFETY & RESPONSIBILITY*
I meet and play with responsible BDSM enthusiasts. The line between fantasy and reality can be quite thin & blurry. It’s fun cross that line from time to time. However, I don't participate in irresponsible play.

Please note that responsible does not necessarily mean experienced. I enjoy working with those new to BDSM and helping them discover / develop their kinks in a safe and sane environment. My limits revolve around being safe and minimal heavy pain, but are few.

I've selected "Needs Discussion" in the "Safe Sex" category. That means we need to discuss beforehand how we're going to be safe and what we consider to be acceptable activities. PREP may protect you from HIV, but it’s not a fix-all for other STD’s.

First meetings are always in public, unless you come with a recommendation from someone I know and trust. I've had a friend stabbed to death during a hookup. I've been in bondage when the Dom started having a heart attack (we both survived). My ego is well balanced, but I can become a stubborn asshole when I observe blatant recklessness, irresponsibility, or discrimination.


*NON-KINK*
Snowboarding and mountain biking are my two favorite outdoor activities. As of December 2024 I’ve consecutively snowboarded 98 months…a run I plan on continuing for as long as possible. Though none of them well, I can play guitar, bass, drums, and keys.


*COMMUNITY / ORGANIZATIONAL*
Member Delta Brotherhood International; Delta 2016 - 2024.

We’re all wired differently. A physical connection is fun. A mental connection is unbeatable.


*RANDOM POINTS OF AMUSEMENT*

“HeY bUdDy, i DoN’t ChAt OnLiNe!” - Then what the fuck you doing on an online chat app?

“YoU aRe FaR aWaY fRoM mE!” - I have a passport and the means to travel worldwide. This is your limitation, not mine.

I’ve been on Recon my entire adult life (i.e. since before it was “Recon”). If I’m overly cautious talking to you, I’m betting you’re a scammer. It’s not on me to prove you’re genuine. That’s on you.

I used to get annoyed by 20 year old photos on profiles. Now that I'm one of those guys that has photos from 20 years ago on my profile, I get it.