BigBikerStache

Kinky guy in east San Jose

In a non-dogmatic, symmetrical, power-exchange relationship with TallGingerMuscle on here. He's my Kemmering, my life partner. You can see him in a gallery on here...don't be fooled by the photos, he's a *superb* flogging and single-tail Top, as well as an incredible bottom. Our preference is to play together, but will play separately on occasion.

Just to be clear, my priorities are my partner, my job, my family, and my friends. Finding time can be a challenge, and if you're a stranger you're at the bottom of the priority list. These seem like appropriate priorities to me.

Fraternal Emeritus of The 15 Association in San Francisco and an Associate Member of Chicago Hellfire Club (CHC). Ask around...I'm known.

I'm 6'0" 235 lbs. 61 Brown/Brown with Mutton Chops as a facial hair.

I play Safe, Sane, and Consensual. I'm on Truvada, but use condoms with strangers on request. Fully COVID vaxed and boosted, and fully MPOX vaxed.

I've got a private, soundproof playroom in my house, with a wall with attachment points, cross, bondage table, spanking/fuck bench, and sling, plus a ton of toys and gear.

THINGS I'M INTO (but note that most of these are not REQUIRED):

Kissing (required!)
Bondage (rope/metal/other)
Wrestling
Athletic gear
Body Contact
Tit Play
Electrical play
Fucking
Spanking/Paddling
Cock and Ball Play
Flogging
Fisting as a Top
Mummification
Wax
Clothespins
and more...

Although I list as 100% Top, I have been known to bottom for a few extraordinary men, but have Trust issues, so it's rare. I believe a good Top needs to bottom also, both for practical reasons (knowing what something feels like when it's done to you), and emotional reasons (you are more likely to respect bottoms and pay attention to their needs when at some future point the roles could be reversed)....and sometimes submitting joyfully to an extraordinary man is good for the soul. After all, that's what you want to do to me, isn't it?

I'm 35 years clean-and-sober. No PNP, thanks. I find drugs interfere with the connection I'm trying to have with you, and also causes dangerous situations because you are distorting the messages your body is trying to send you (which means you are distorting what you are conveying to me, and that could be dangerous).

Don't contact me unless you have a face pic in your profile, or include it in your message. I'm less interested in your dick or your ass than I am in your face, because that's what I'll be looking at until I gag, blindfold, or hood you. A hot mustache or really pretty blue eyes is what makes me cream in my jeans.

In my non-kink life, you'll discover I'm intelligent and can carry on a conversation.

My tastes run VERY strongly to men with facial hair, in other words, it's pretty much required.

This is a complicated dance we do....most of the time, I enjoy leading. What I really get off on is giving guys what they want....so my style of Topping is to find out what really carbonates your hormones, and then try to do that as long as it works for me too.

If we decide to meet up for play, I'll give you my cell phone #, and expect yours in return. Voice call prior to meeting is REQUIRED. I'm tired of flakes and no-shows, and at least if I have your cell phone # I'll be able to call and ask where you are and/or what's going on. I realize that last-minute things happen, but give me (as ordered) a phone call or text message. If you stand me up or ghost me, we're done. Coming here and then deciding you don't want to do a scene is fine; not showing at all is disrespectful and is not tolerated. Be a fucking adult and manage your time.

Hint: I use the Recon iPhone app, which makes it look like I'm always online. I'm not. I have a life. It's Quality of connection over quantity of tricks. Instant responses to messages won't happen.